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Online Sex Therapy | Berlin

Online Sex Therapy

Finding Connection Through Sex: Help from a English Speaking, Certified Psychotherapist


Online Sex Therapy Psychotherapist

Sexuality is a core part of our human identity. Sexual difficulties go right to the heart of an individual’s relationship to their Self. Being able to experience pleasure, creativity and fulfillment through sexual expression lies at the heart of our existence.

Within that in mind I boost my clients’ sexual functioning through the expansion of sexual knowledge, emotional and relational awareness, and comfort and confidence in their own relationship to sexuality. You can expect to receive accurate information about the nature of your difficulties as well empathic, non-judgmental and culturally competent care from a professional, educated sexuality expert.

I am sensitive to the needs of all sexualities. I use a variety of approaches depending on the issue.

Presenting concerns I work with:
male issues | female issues | couples issues.

Sessions: Online Sex Therapy

Sessions are 50-80 minutes long, once a week.

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Tidal Grace, MA, RCC, BDP
Sexuality throws no light upon love, but only through love can we learn to understand sexuality.
Eugen Rosenstock-Huessy
 

Male Sexual Issues


Performance Anxiety while Dating and/or in Relationships

For single and newly single men the dating world is full of expectations. Our culture pressures men to be ready willing to have sex whenever interest is expressed. For men in committed relationships, the anxiety to fulfill what a partner desires can lead to avoidance. Learning how to express one’s needs, fantasies and desires is critical.

Erectile Dysfunction

ED is caused by many things: biological, pharmacological, psychological and interpersonal. Many times, ED is sexual avoidance with his partner. This affects the partner who experiences reactions including: concern, rejection, loneliness, frustration, anger and avoidance. This creates relational anxiety and strife.

Premature Ejaculation

For some men, the ability to control a climax’s timing can cause dissatisfaction and disappointment.

Delayed Ejaculation

The difficulty to climax with a partner can cause rifts. Most men don’t feel it’s an issue until they’re in a long-term committed relationship and their partners are feeling anxious, rejected, frustrated, and/or worried about becoming pregnant.

Past Childhood Abuse or Trauma

One’s sexual history of abuse or rape can have a profound effect on one’s relationships. Sex therapy is an integral part of a person’s or couple’s recovery.

Out of Control Sexual Behaviour

Compelled to watch porn for so many hours that it interferes with your life? Can’t stop pursuing hookups for the sake of the thrill or high? Sex therapy confronts this behaviour directly and finds the underlying reasons. With insight, comes the ability to make changes.
 

Female Sexual Issues


Low Libido

One of the most common problems women bring into sex therapy is lack of desire. This may be due to medical issues, side effects from medication, hormonal changes and/or issues in one’s relationship.

Past Childhood Abuse or Trauma

One’s sexual history of abuse or rape can have a profound effect on one’s relationships. Sex therapy is an integral part of a person’s or couple’s recovery.

Inability to Orgasm (Inorgasmia)

The inability to reach orgasm can be a frustrating experience for a woman and her partner. I work on this issue with both the woman and her partner so that both are educated and supported during the treatment.
 

Couples’ Sexual Issues



Sexual Avoidance

Although some couples have a bond outside the bedroom, many times they become platonic roommates. The thrill of seductions, the excitement of passionate play has been stripped out. I work with couples to explore the timeline of the changes or the milestones that may have contributed to the shift. At times the avoidance is due to deeper issues in a partner’s history or a couple’s contact.

Discrepant Desire

A common difficulty occurs when partners have different needs or desires in the frequency of sexual connections.

Infidelity

Affairs wreak havoc on couples and is experienced as a crisis in their relationship and family. I help couples work on the recovery of trust and address the challenges to their intimate life.

Lack of Technique

Due to one’s cultural, religious or psychological reasons, a person may not have a lot of sexual experience. This make affect their confidence. I teach clients through resources and home play assignments to be watched, read and/or practiced between therapy appointments. We also focus on the cultural myths that may be impeding one’s sexual explorations.

Kink

Whether one is interested in light power exchange or more intense BDSM type play, a person often has difficulty discussing these types of desires and or fantasies with their partner. Sex therapy sessions allow for a professional to lead the discussion and offer wisdom, education and resources.

Non-Monogamous Relationships

Sometimes a couple would like to negotiate their monogamy to include other partners. These conversations can be challenging given the fears and jealousy partners may experience in branching into a new relationship type. I offer guidance and perspective on the non-monogamy issues and boundaries that need to be discussed, possible challenges and how this fits into their developmental stage as a couple.

Do you find yourself in one or more of these questions?

Is your sex life on life-support and you are worried that this will break you up as a couple? Have you seen your sex life slowly fading over the months (or years) and now it seems routine and boring? Is the end of your relationship is near? Have you tried some “techniques” or have read some articles about sex but nothing seems to help? Are you fighting more and more with your partner and it seems to be related to the fact that your sex life is dwindling? Perhaps sex has completely disappeared from your relationship? Maybe you are both considering having sex outside the relationship (or maybe you already have) and this makes you uncomfortable and anxious: “Didn’t we make promises to keep intimacy within our partnership?” or “I’m not sure if I’m ready for an open relationship: I’d like to stay just us.” Do you love your partner but can’t imagine having the sex with them that you really crave? Does even thinking about bringing up what you really want to do with them make you cringe and worry? Does your partner seem relieved that you won’t bring up anything too strange for them?

Online sex therapy is effective in helping couples experiencing sexual issues.

Online sex therapy helps you understand the reasons why your sex life with your partner has changed and then helps foster better communication for a more satisfying (and sometimes electric!) sexual and intimate experience. Better sexual relations invariably improve relationships.

As a therapist, I am comfortable, experienced and trained to discuss a wide range of sex-related concerns ranging from exploring one’s sexual orientation (straight, bisexuality, asexuality, and any variations in between), BD/SM, kink, role play, sexual play, psychosexual desire and sexual symbolism.

The two main problems I see in my practice are low sexual desire and frequency disagreements between partners. Women who don’t have orgasms and men who ejaculate too quickly (or slowly) are often the quickest problems to solve. Technique problems, issues with oral sex, “ick” factor feelings about different sex acts, problems with porn, boring sex lives, an inability to get aroused, inhibitions, suspected addictions and fetishes are common reasons to come and see me.

“How should I choose a therapist?”

A good first step is to make sure that your therapist is licensed to practice therapy and holds a professional, university degree in therapy and counselling. Secondly, you want to ensure that the therapist you choose is also specialized in sex therapy as one of their core competencies. Not only do I specialize in sex therapy (with considerable experience in the field), I also have a Masters-degree in Counselling from the University of British Columbia with an Honours designation.

“Can we just get a book on sex?”

That’s true; however, a book cannot sit patiently with you and listen, reflect back key pieces of what you are saying, and help you formulate and notice new things about yourself you may never have considered before. Although books have a lot of information, therapy contains a critical interaction: that is, it is in the relationship with a therapist that clients grow—not just in the knowledge that a therapist might have about a particular topic or concern.

“A sex therapist will just suggest a threesome to spice up our sex life.”

Some people imagine that sex therapy is meant to simply increase the modalities of sexual experience. And while a threesome might work for some people to “spice up their sexual lives,” it usually is not recommended for couples who come in complaining about the lack of sexual intimacy between them. Instead, and primarily, sex therapy is designed to help couples talk about sex and intimacy with each other.

“Won’t I have to reveal all my past sexual escapades to my spouse?”

No, you won’t. Sometimes these reveals come up in the course of therapy, but only if you feel completely comfortable at the time and want to disclose them yourself. Therapy is about creating safety and comfort for people discussing intimate issues—it is not about creating more fear and anxiety.

“I’m going to feel uncomfortable with how little I know about sex.”

Don’t worry: most people do ~not~ know very much about sex. As a sex therapist, I’m even amazed by the new sexual practices that people bring to me that seem like they are on the cutting-edge of the sexual world. Sex, and more importantly intimate sex, is barely touched upon in school and our society, in general, belittles and trivializes what is an incredibly important experience.

Why choose me as your sex therapist?

Unlike other sex therapists, I go deeper into the psychological and spiritual issues at play within your personal sexual dynamic. Instead of presenting sex as mechanical and methodic (as though there is some behavioral modification or procedure that needs to occur to make everything better), I open up the discussion with you and facilitate your exploration into this enormous world that contains your symbols, desires and passions. The deeper we go, the better for you and the more intense your growth every session. I am comfortable with talking about all kinds of sex and there is nothing off-limits or taboo in my sessions. I’m aware of how anxious you might feel talking about this intimate subject with each other and with a complete stranger, and I’ll help set you and your partner at ease as I guide you into talking about sex.

“We would like to start working with you: what’s next?”

Get in touch. If you have concerns and questions related to sex therapy, and would like to arrange an initial appointment with me, click on the buttons below and schedule your first appointment. I always welcome new clients and look forward to meeting and helping you.