Are you really concerned that your addiction is so out-of-control that your partner or spouse will eventually leave you all alone? Perhaps you are waiting for your partner to finally figure out that you have an addiction—or just get sick of what they do know—and leave you. Do you wonder why the important people in your life put up with you at all?
Do you mock yourself with all sorts of derogatory names—like “I’m such an idiot", “I’m a complete asshole", or “What a fool I am!“—but think this is totally normal?
Are you worried that other people are going to find out the "real" you and finally get move on from you?
Are the feelings bubbling up underneath your cool surface so intense that you blot them out with sex, alcohol, drugs or porn?
Do you crave real self-confidence and moving beyond any demons of your past so that you can finally have a real life and a real relationship?
Online therapy for any kind of addiction can help people suffering from the loss of self confidence, the feeling of not being authentic, the self-hate and the sense of being out of control. Therapy for addiction can help build on your natural tendency for resilience, to normalise feelings that you may be hiding or running from, and to restore a sense that you are worth all of this work. Let's face it: normal life is hard regardless of your unique situation and there is nothing wrong in seeking help.
Many people suffering from addictions have no idea where to find help: “Should I go to AA? A support group? My family doctor? My friends? A therapist sounds good, but which one?"
It is common for people to feel lost when finding the right therapist for addictions, especially online were the choices are overwhelming. You are wanting to make sure you find someone you can trust, but not sure where to start. A good first step is making sure that the therapist is licensed to practice therapy and holds a professional, university degree in counselling.
Maybe you can afford to come for counselling but things might be a bit tight if you do. Could you cut back your expenditure on other goods and services to allow you to start counselling? On the other hand, if you can really afford to pay for therapy, and it won’t be a struggle, perhaps investing money in your health and well-being is not a priority for you. This may be something worthwhile looking at. If you could afford to pay but are unwilling to do so, what does this say about how much you value yourself? Valuing yourself enough to pay for therapy is the first step towards rebuilding your self-confidence.
Addictions may form due to a choice, but in time, the habits that sustain some addictions are rooted in brain chemistry and cellular damage. These issues can’t be willed away. Instead, they’re best addressed with the help of formal therapy for addictions.
Some addicted people claim that their behavior isn’t motivated an addiction; instead, they claim it comes from the traditions of their family. For example, they may claim that their parents always drank alcohol on the weekends, or that cousins also use marijuana on a daily basis. True: a part of addiction has a genetic component but this does not include the whole cause. Indeed, other physiological, psychological and social factors play into all addictions. Genetics don’t dictate destiny, and similarly, a genetic propensity for addiction doesn’t spell doom for healing. People who have these traits can still learn how to overcome them in therapy, and they can move forward in a healthier manner.
"First off: THANK YOU Tidal. I remember coming in that first time and feeling so worried you were just going to listen to what I've done and say: "You're too much. I can't help you." But you didn't. Every time I gave up though, you were right there when I came back. Can't say it wasn't hard, but it worked. Sober now for months. Thanks." —Ron
"My wife thanks you! Lol. I think she got more out of this then me. Just joking… Still don't know what the magic was but I think it has a little too do with showing me that I'm worth it. I put in quite a show, huh? Now I've got no show. It's just plain ol' me. And I like that guy better than the showboat I was." --Jeff
Therapy for addictions is one of my specialties. Many therapists may work with addictions but they use common techniques that are not useful when dealing with addictions specifically. Beyond my precision with treatment for addictions, I go deep into what is at the core of addiction: I don't just deal with the symptoms. My goal, unlike a lot of other therapists, is to root out the core issue so that it does not return.
Get in touch! Book your first session by clicking on the Schedule Session or contact button below. I look forward to seeing you in our first session and getting to work on helping you conquer your addiction.