Are you worried about never coming back to who you were—getting back to that "old you"—and staying in your depersonalized state forever? Do you worry that you have permanently screwed up your life in some way? Do you feel like your depersonalization is making you feel even more alone and disconnected and that you are spiraling down life's path rather than moving up and ahead? Do you attack yourself because in the past you were always good at figuring things out, doing things just "so" perfectly, and DP is one thing that you can't manage by yourself?
Some people with depersonalization brought on after using marijuana (even just once) fear they may never come back to the old version of themselves. Some clients worry that they'll never feel an emotion again, that they are eternally stuck behind a looking glass, peering out, observing but not really partaking in life like they use to.
Depersonalization can be beaten
Don't believe the online forums that tell you differently—DP can be beaten. Online psychotherapy can be extremely effective in helping people suffering from the symptoms of depersonalization. Therapy builds on your natural strengths, helps you understand and find the path out of depersonalization and rebuilds your confidence in yourself as you look towards the future. A therapist specializing in DP works with many individuals who have similar complaints, they are well versed in treating DP and have specific methods to work with it. They'll help you understand your behaviours, emotions, and thoughts that contribute to depersonalization; they'll help you identify relational patterns and learned behaviours that can create or increase DP; and, they'll help you regain or create a sense of self, which in turn lessens anxiety. And remember: normal life, without DP, is hard—regardless of your unique situation, and there is nothing wrong in seeking help.
But who do I see for help?
Many people suffering from depersonalization have no idea where to turn to find help. It is common for people to feel lost when finding the right therapist, especially online were the choices are overwhelming. You might be wanting to make sure you find someone you can trust, but not sure where to start. A good first step is, making sure the therapist is licensed to practice therapy and holds a professional, university degree in counselling.
The other problem people with DP have is that depersonalization often goes misdiagnosed by doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists, counsellors, and even therapists as depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, or even psychosis! So note well: The loss of one's sense of self is not any one of these conditions alone but it can appear co-morbid with them (other such conditions include sleep deprivation, migraine, epilepsy, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and stress). This is why it is very important to work with a professional who understands the subtle differences between these symptoms to work effectively on your treatment.
"But won't therapy make my DP worse?"
This is blatantly not true. Psychotherapy is a type of learning, it has a physiological and therefore lasting impact on brain, which may in turn lessen the chances and intensity of future DP episodes. A trained and professional therapist will also provide you with better coping techniques and problem-solving skills.
"I'm stuck this way forever. Nothing has worked in the past."
If you are reading this page, you must, in some way, believe that it is possible to get better or you would not be here. If you are truly stuck, there is no hope! However, because you are here, that in itself is a good sign. That's the sign of hope. So, don't give up. There is much to life beyond DP and DP, with treatment and time, gets better—and can even disappear completely.
"Therapy takes too long! DP happened to me so fast. Can't I just do something quickly to make it go away?"
Therapy can take time, that's for sure; and, although DP might have felt like it came on suddenly, there was many years of potentially maladaptive living that prepared you just for the moment. Those years are the critical pieces that went into making you susceptible to DP and it is those years we have to look at and break down so that we may finally release you from the suffering of DP.