Women's Sexual Health Therapy

Desire is not a switch

A lot of women arrive believing something is broken in them because desire is low, slow, or gone. Usually nothing is broken. Desire is responsive, not automatic. It answers to context: stress, exhaustion, resentment, history, how safe you feel, how you feel about your own body. When those shift, it shifts. Therapy is where we look at the context honestly instead of treating you as the fault.

What I work with

• Low or absent desire, and desire that has changed over time
• Difficulty reaching orgasm, or arousal that does not arrive
• Sexual confidence and body image
• Reclaiming desire after years of disconnection or going through the motions
• Changes around childbirth, perimenopause, and menopause
• The way past trauma can shut intimacy down, and how it slowly reopens
• Shame: the quiet belief that what you want is too much, or not allowed

Shame is usually the real problem

Many women learned early to treat their own desire as evidence against them: something to manage, hide, or apologise for. That belief does more damage than any single symptom. The work is not about pushing you to want more. It is about removing what has been pressing down on what is already there.

One honest note: pain during sex, and some arousal problems, can have physical causes. If you have pain or a sudden physical change, see your GP or a gynaecologist alongside this work.

How the work goes

Audio-only sessions, weekly or every other week. No camera. The audio-only format makes it easier to say things you would dodge face-to-face. We work in a clear framework, at your pace, without judgement.

Who this is for

Women who want to understand what happened to their desire or confidence, and who would rather do that with someone calm and direct than be handed a checklist of techniques.

If it sits between you and a partner, see also Sexual Issues in Relationships and the main sex therapy page.